Feel free to ignore this, but I could really use some advice from the Tumblrverse. It is no secret that my mother and I have had a rocky relationship the past couple years, hell I spent eight months not speaking to the woman! In the last year or so it has gotten much better between us, her recently health scare and general improvement as a person has made it easier to rebuild the bridges we spent sixteen years trying to tear down. But last week I went to visit her and she shared a bit of news with me that has been really difficult to digest.
First let me explain that my parents have been separated for the majority of my life, and it has always been a wish of mine that each of them find someone they want to spend the rest of their lives with. Doug, is the man my mother has been dating since sometime around November. Now I like Doug, he is a sweet man and he seems to make my mother immensely happy (which is all that matters I guess), when they moved in together after two months I was able to get over it because it seemed to work, but now he has proposed to her…….
Herein lies my issue: FIVE MONTHS! You have got to be freaking joking right?? FIVE MONTHS and are they are engaged to be married. Is it wrong of me to wish they would wait? They have already planned for the wedding in November. It will be one year when they are getting married - is it completely insane for me to find this incredibly premature and rash? My mom has been married twice, at 53 years old is five months really enough to know if you want to spend the rest of your life with someone - change your name for someone?!
Anyone have any advice as to if I am a total asshat for not being a fan of this, or if I am kind of entitled to be a bit speculative?